some thoughts

it is always hard to balance the public and the private.

to accomodate or not to. to show up at functions or not to. i think it is a dilemma that will always surface. having to spend time outside work with the people at work, when you are trying to have more time for your life outside work. to show face, or not to? to build closer working relationships or not to?

i think we often feel obliged.

but i also think one has to learn to say no. for his own sake.

another thing i realise is that sometimes it is really better to do things alone: things get done more efficiently that way. moreover, people often do not know what you really want. so in order to achieve what you really want, you might have to accomodate others, and this results in delay or inconvenience. which isn't always pleasant, nor desired.

one last thing. if someone treats you in a certain manner, would you smile and let it go, or would you do the same to him the next time round? of course ideally, we would choose the former. but because we aren't ideal people, there is always the temptation to choose the latter. especially since maybe that would be the best way to protect yourself.

but in the first place, why do people treat people in that manner?

i am beginning to suspect that man is inherently flawed. that man is selfish and greedy.